top of page

Raising a Child Who Can Overcome Problems and Setbacks

Image Credits: Unsplash

Life is full of problems and setbacks.

As a parent, you need to raise your child to have the ability to overcome.

A resilient child will grow up to be a resilient adult who knows how to recover from even the toughest failures instead of simply wallowing in them.

In this article, I will be sharing tips on how to raise a child who can overcome life's problems and setbacks.

Phrases to avoid if you want to raise a resilient child

The things that you do and say can have a big impact on the values your child develops.

To raise a resilient child, it is important to determine the balance between supporting your child and simply ironing out all of your child’s problems on his behalf.


1. “You are fine.”

This sounds like calm down your child.

Instead, try: “I see that you are upset, and that is okay.”

Inform your child that his big emotions are okay and that he can overcome them.

Give your child tools to self soothe or calm down when he had big emotions.

For example, a colouring book, some Play-Doh, and lotion that smells good.

This helps your child manage and continue healthy coping skills as he grows older.

2. “I will fix it for you.”

Instead, try: “Do you need help figuring this out?”

Allow your child to experience difficult situations will teach him that he can figure his problems out by himself.

There are times when you will have to intervene but find the balance between helping your child and solving his problems for him.

For example,

If your child struggles with tying his shoelaces, show him how to do one shoe then encourage him to do the other.

3. “This is too hard for you.”

This can send a message that you think your child is incapable.

Instead, try: “Maybe you can try doing this other thing instead.”

Sometimes your child wants to try doing things that he is not ready for, maybe because he saw you or someone else doing it before.

Focus on directing your child’s attention toward an activity that is more appropriate for him.

With some practice, your child might eventually be able to do that other difficult task.

4. “Be careful.”

This can send your child the message that it is not safe.

Instead, try: Stand close to him.

If you think your child might get hurt while climbing a slide or a ladder while playing, simply try standing close to him if he needs your help.

This will encourage his ability to determine when a situation is unsafe and when it is okay to take a little risk.

5. “Say No or Failure.”

Let your child learn how to handle being told “No” or grow up knowing that it is all about his effort, rather than his outcome,

Rejection or failure is not the end of the road, you are strong enough to handle failing, there are other choices for you to explore.

I hope all these tips will help you to raise your child to overcome life's problems and setbacks.

What matters most to parents? Our most-read articles:

Genesis Childcare 1989, one of the best Tampines Preschool and a good childcare in Tampines, advocates that every child is unique and precious who needs to be loved and cherished. In our Tampines childcare (Tampines Central), we have developed a curriculum which provides a bilingual learning experience, helps the children to learn the necessary skills and knowledge needed to help them successfully transit to Primary School with ease.

As one of the best childcare centre in Tampines since 1989, we are committed to nurturing our early learners holistically through various learning areas and positive learning dispositions. In our Tampines Preschool, we place a strong emphasis on the way our teachers facilitate and interact with the children.

Teachers from our childcare Tampines or Playgroup in Tampines are trained, qualified, passionate, dedicated, enthusiastic, caring and encouraging who love and empower each child to fulfil their potential to the fullest. Our Tampines Preschool professional team of preschool teachers has a good understanding of child development and learning principles. We apply them efficiently and set the stage to create a meaningful learning experience that supports your child's discovery.

The children in our preschool Tampines get to learn English, Chinese, Maths, Science, Music and Movement, Arts, Outdoor Play and cookery lessons. Our Preschool Tampines also provides balanced and nutritious meals for the children and helps the children to cultivate healthy eating habits.

We consistently create a positive and cozy environment that will give your child a sense of security which builds their self-confidence to explore the world around them in our good childcare in Tampines.

In our good childcare in Tampines, we have over 30 years of experience in nurturing thousands of infants, toddlers and preschoolers.

If you are looking for a good Tampines infant care or Tampines preschool or Tampines childcare near Tampines Central, do consider Genesis Childcare 1989.

Located alongside our childcare centre in Tampines is our Nurture Infant House. If you are looking for a good Tampines infant care or infant care in Tampines, do visit Nurture Infant House. It is for infants aged 2 months to 18 months old. You can learn more about our infant care Tampines here.

Lastly, would you like to visit our Genesis Childcare Tampines to find out more about our environment and setup as well as understand our operations by talking to our teachers and supervisor?

Book a school tour now! Click here to read our Google reviews too!

Genesis Childcare 1989 (Playgroup to Kindergarten 2)

Blk 433 Tampines Street 43 #01-63/65 S(520433)

Nurture Infant House (2 to 18 months Infants)

Blk 433 Tampines Street 43 #01-61 S(520433)

Opening hours: Monday to Friday (7am to 7pm) & Saturday (7am to 2pm)

Public Bus services: 8 / 21 / 28 / 29 / 293



bottom of page